Dear Annie: A few months ago, my younger sister, “Kate,” announced during dinner that she and her boyfriend were moving to Nashville to “start fresh.” Everyone wished her well, but I was blindsided. What she didn’t share was that she’d already told me she was leaving our family business — the bakery our parents started 30 years ago and that she and I have been running together since Mom retired.
I manage the finances and supply orders, and Kate runs the front and does most of the decorating. We’ve had our share of arguments, but we always figured it out. When she told me privately she was leaving, she brushed off my questions and said she didn’t want to deal with “drama.” Then she dropped the news in front of the whole family without once mentioning how her decision affects the bakery — or me.
I don’t want to chase after someone who’s already out the door, but I can’t help feeling used. I’m now handling holiday orders by myself with part-time help, and the customers keep asking for her. I haven’t told our parents everything because I’m not trying to start a family fight. How do I let go of the resentment when she clearly had no problem letting go of me? — Left Holding the Apron
Dear Left Holding the Apron: It’s hard not to feel abandoned after someone walks out without warning. Since she’s already made up her mind, there isn’t much sense in guilting her. But sharing your feelings could prevent your relationship from being taken over by resentment.
Instead of focusing on what you’ve lost, focus on what you’ve gained — full control over the business. That’s no small thing. If it excites you, run with it. If not, maybe it’s time for you to move on to something new, too.
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